6 Healthy Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart: A Work in Progress
I’ve had my fair share of moments where I had a broken heart, felt lovesick, had a heartache; whatever you wanna call it. Last year in particular was pretty heartcore (haha) when it comes to that. During these times, I have written down what has helped me move on and feel better.
Talk is cheap
It’s the obvious thing to do: Find a friend and talk about what’s going on. In the past, I’ve sometimes held back on speaking about a problem because that made it feel more real. But when I’m spiraling in thoughts, the feelings are already plenty real. If we speak about the pain we have, we validate that we are not OK at the moment but we’re also being honest with ourselves. I’d suggest that talking about what you are suffering from, may it be a broken heart or anything else, is how you start a positive healing process.
Move your body
You might not have to do it my way and move out of your country – moving your body is good enough! There are countless studies that show that during many sports your body produces important chemicals that will make you feel better. There’s a reason for the phrase ‘runner’s high’: during running (and many other sports) your body produces endorphins and Anandamide, a naturally synthesized form of THC. When you’re depressed it may feel impossible to get yourself to run, I get it, I’ve been there. But if you just get outside your flat and take a walk, that’s already a great start! You might also benefit from getting up earlier, as studies show that sleeping through the morning hours is detrimental to the mental well-being.
Write it down
It’s probably no big surprise that I am a big fan of writing down your feelings and have been for a long time! I’ve never been big on offline journals because I prefer to type but however you wanna do it – I am sure it helps! Writing benefits me because I am forced to order my thoughts and structure them in a way that even people from the outside understand them. In this way, writing helps me to better understand my own emotions and needs!
Meditate
I have been occasionally practicing Yoga and meditation for many years now. I have not been able to make meditation a steady practice of my life but I do see the benefits you get from it very clearly! With a broken heart, it might be hard to just sit down and let all your thoughts pass, not think of anything anymore. This is where you can have a look at guided meditations and if you’re German-speaking I especially love one called ‘Moment Mal’ on Spotify. She even has one session for letting go off people!
Human Touch
Everyone knows the saying that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. I do agree to some extent: After grieving the loss of a person for a certain time there will come the point where you’ll crave some human touch again. Only you know when the right time for that is! Listen closely inwards instead of skipping ahead. Getting down to business while your still torn inside might make feel worse. So, also take my last tip into consideration and…
… give it time
Time destroys everything: Everything wonderful as well as everything painful. It’s tough to realize but if I may be for real about this, feelings fade over time, the good ones as well as the bad ones. So, if you don’t feel ready to move on, one day you will be, even if it’s hard to imagine now.
I hope you will be doing fine soon, my fellow sad lovers.
BenLeander
